Dealing with pregnant friends & babies...
When a grieving parent see's another expecting woman it can be something that is difficult to face after you’ve suffered a loss. Babies can be even worse. I hope the tips below help you cope with this difficult part of life.
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It is OK to feel angry, jealous and resentful of pregnant women and other babies.
These are normal feelings of grief and you are entitled to have them. Do not let anyone make you feel bad because of it.
I used to feel so guilty for feeling anger and sometimes even hatred towards others. Especially people who didn’t want kids and “accidentally” got pregnant. My advice is to do whatever you can to cope and survive the heartache. You shouldn’t feel guilty for feeling the way you do. It is okay to be angry… It’s hard seeing pregnant women who just happen to walk right in front of you at the store or new parents pushing a cart with a newborn in the carrier…I swear that’s what I saw for the first two months every time we went out after our loss. It’s felt like a slap in the face.
Sometimes the only way to face pregnant friends is to be honest with them about your feelings.
When a grieving parent see's another expecting woman it can be something that is difficult to face after you’ve suffered a loss. Babies can be even worse. I hope the tips below help you cope with this difficult part of life.
If you have advice you’d like to add, please send it by using the contact tab, with ‘Dealing with Pregnant Friends and Babies’ in the subject line. Thanks!
It is OK to feel angry, jealous and resentful of pregnant women and other babies.
These are normal feelings of grief and you are entitled to have them. Do not let anyone make you feel bad because of it.
I used to feel so guilty for feeling anger and sometimes even hatred towards others. Especially people who didn’t want kids and “accidentally” got pregnant. My advice is to do whatever you can to cope and survive the heartache. You shouldn’t feel guilty for feeling the way you do. It is okay to be angry… It’s hard seeing pregnant women who just happen to walk right in front of you at the store or new parents pushing a cart with a newborn in the carrier…I swear that’s what I saw for the first two months every time we went out after our loss. It’s felt like a slap in the face.
- In the beginning, avoidance is best.
Facing a pregnant friend without breaking down will be very difficult in the early stages of your grief. Avoiding them is OK if that is what you need to do to survive. It will get easier as time goes on.
Try to change your thinking.
For most women pregnancy is an exciting and happy time. Try to remember how happy you were when you were pregnant and remember that is not that women’s fault that your babies is gone.
Sometimes the only way to face pregnant friends is to be honest with them about your feelings.